What will you do if the people you care do the things not efficient as you expect?

Such scenario will often occur in every day life: if some one, specail in your life, have to do something or ask you for a favor, however, the way he perofrms or strives is extremely inefficient and annoying, what will you do, especially for the case that you are such a type of people who will think about things for the sake of him and would like him to do the things as you expect?

Maybe through inheritance or personality of full confidence, you might behavior angry or uncomfortable, no matter how great the solution you have contrived for him or how brilliant for the solution itself is, the result would be adverse. Maybe the one you care, in most cases, would be angry,incensed,enraged, for the reason that he means to find comfort or suggestion from you, however, what he gets are full of complain and critical comments or judgmet. Such huge contrast might cause to magnify the feeling of dissatisfaction and result the quarrel or trouble between the two person.

Then we would ask, if all you want to do, starts from the best intent for him, why the result turns out the opposite way? And who should be responsible for it? THe answer is on the way to handle such issue. Maybe for thousand times, you have said to yourself, to be calm, easy, however it always seems to lose control. Is it because you care him so much? Maybe, Is it because you inappropriately compare the way he did with that you might do in you were in his position? Maybe. But the most important reason accounting for the final result is your attitude and the lack of the consciousness to posit yourself on the position of him. Next time, try to use the words - if I were you, I might have done things in such way, not to use your voice or anger to show how disappointed you are.