Something about expectation

It has been a quite since I changed the online statement to "lower expectation or no expectation". I think it is a great to learn to be appreciated others no matter what they do and a kind of secret ingredient to become happier. Think about it clearly. It is true indeed that when people get upset or sad, for most cases it is because what they expect does not happen. As for me, I just take everything serious including whatever people tells me. Therefore I need to keep reminding myself to lower expectation or no expectation on others because when they say something or do something, they might not be sure or take it serious enough as me. Well we might be able to take it as another way to become more independent. But after trying for a while, when things happened, I guess I still can't do it for most of time. It is so hard to change the way we used to think.

When I was kids, my mother always told me to lower expectation on myself. I guess it is quite different from other parents especially when it comes to the grade or performance in school. Well I appreciated it a lot, because I know she just didn't want to give me a lot of pressure and wanted me to choose the right thing to do not just aimed at one target. For some cases, grade was nothing but a number on your school report. Different interpretation will give definitely various results.

Therefore I guess I might have lower expectation on others as well. But it is not the truth. Because from DD and ZZ, I confirmed one thing that I did have a lot of expectations on others especially those people who are important for me. Therefore it is easy to them to turn me into upset comparing with other people. That's the reason people keep saying that it is easy to get hurt by the people who are close to you. For most of cases, I think it is just like that double-edged sword which will hurt all of us which is the situation I am working so hard to get prevented from.

I guess I owned a lot of apologies to those people who love me and care me. Even if they did something wrong, they were not desired to get sad or upset because of me. As a human being, learning to be appreciated of others is a great way to become happy which will do good to others as well as himself. Then why not? :) I will Keep on working on it.